5 Things I've Learnt About Myself and Blogging Since I Started.

Tuesday 23 September 2014

Since starting My Pale Skin 9 months ago, blogging has taken over my life. I've learnt a lot about the blogging world, made friends, improved my confidence, expanded my make up collection and learnt new skills. In no particular order, I wanted to share with you 5 things i've learnt in the past 9 months.

1. You may not have created a human child in the past 9 months, but you have created a baby.
I admit, I have a slight addictive personality, i'm an ex smoker, and have previously had around 4389529850 hobbies - but nothing has really meant as much to me as blogging has. My Pale Skin has turned into my baby, I feed it new content everyday, I care for it, nuture it and have tried to provide it with the best start in life. However, just like a baby, you can't expect it to walk and talk straight away. I've found my voice over the past few months, and as my confidence has grown with small baby steps, I'm beginning to talk louder, more confidently and let go.

2. You don't need to buy all of the things, all of the time.
When I first started blogging, I guess I kind of fell into the trap that in order to be a good blogger I had to buy every new product that was released. After a while, I learnt not to get caught up in the moment, and to go back through my make up collection and figure out which products truly worked for me. I feel like I've grown my own personal make up style, and how to reuse products in different ways.

3. You've come further than you realize.
There have been times over the past few months where I've got the blogger blues. The demon of comparison has got to me and I've lost faith in myself. One simple thing changed the game for me - I compared my first blog post with my last and it really opened my eyes that if I work hard, keep learning and just focus on my own blog instead of comparing it to others and instead of bashing my confidence down, it'll slowly begin to grow.

4. Bloggers are friendly and not scary people you should be afraid of.
The thought of starting a blog never really occurred to me until I began getting daily requests from the internet forum where I used to post my make up looks. I started blogging not knowing any bloggers in real life, or ever having been to a blogger event. I remember being totally afraid at my first few events, and not speaking to anyone. It was only after meeting and spending time with bloggers such as ZainebApril, Monica & Beth amongst many others did I understand how warm, welcoming and friendly the blogging community can really be. These girls opened my eyes and my heart to being able to make true friends in this community and have been more of an influence than they'll ever know.

5. Believe in yourself because it's OKAY to be you.
There have been times I've arrived late at events, or worried that my make up doesn't look right, my hair is a mess, or i'm not feeling good about myself that day and you know what - that's okay. In the blogging and vlogging world, we only see a tiny snapshot of someones day or life - and often not the bits which can truly define a person. I've learnt that if you try to please everyone instead of yourself, you'll never win. Believe in who you are as a person, if you feel confident about a post you've written, going out without make up on, or even going out with all the make up on - if you feel good then screw what other people may think. Sometimes you just need to have a little faith in yourself because you never know, you may just surprise yourself.

I'd love to hear what you've learnt about yourself in the past few months, let me know in the comments!
Em xxx


  1. Fab post and great advice, especially for me as I'm relatively new to blogging but I really love it :)

    Jasmine // Magpie Jasmine

  2. I love your blog and I agree with all the 5 things! I really feel like my blog is my baby that I have to take care of! x

  3. This is such a lovely post and such great advice, especially the last one! my blog may not be the most impressive or look the same as everyone elses but its mine and I'm proud of it :) x

  4. I like the idea of comparing yourself to well, yourself. It's a great reminder of how far you've come! xx

  5. I think we had some similar thoughts in today's post! What a coincidence. :) I totally agree with 1), I never really stuck with a hobby for very long but blogging is somehow different.
    Elina | Miss Blue Eyes

  6. You always make such valid and honest points. I haven't been blogging for as long, but for the first time in my life I am confident about doing something in my life and I am actually proud of this little space of mine on the internet. I never though blogging could bring me happiness and that it would help me find myself but it has and it's still continuing to do so every day :) x

  7. Your points are so valid! I have been blogging for just over 3 months and it is slowly overtaking my life but I love it!
    P.S. you have some fabulous photos on your blog x

  8. Great points lovely. So true too. We all fall for the demon of comparison at times!

    Katie <3

  9. How glad I am that I stumbled on your baby today! Some really lovely posts. Sophie x

  10. I'm new to blogging, loved this post. I've just discovered your blog and I'm binge reading the majority of your posts as we speak ha ha.

  11. Oh great advice! Im new to blogging and this really help. Thanks so much Em! xx